Dream Interpretation

 Dream Interpretation: Sex Dreams

Lately I’ve been having dreams about sex. Sounds great until I think of the people in the dreams. Last night it was a mix of a friend’s husband and her friend? A mix? Do I mean a threesome? No, not a threesome…

It started with me at her house. I was in her room on the phone with HER and her husband walks in. He’s in a towel looking through the dresser for something to wear. He’s adjusting his towel and I’m getting flashes of skin. I say, “I see the gym has been working for you”. Of course he smiles and shows me his “gains”. First his back, then his glutes, then he turns around and shows me the rest. He started to walk out of the room, then he stopped and turned back. At this point I was laying on the bed. He climbed in the bed and kissed me. As we kissed and undressed, he was suddenly someone else. That’s the mix part. No threesome. He was suddenly someone else. Then we hear the door. She was home.  I’m hopping out of the bed and thinking… how do I hide this from her. I walk into the kitchen where she is and say hi. He’s in the kitchen also and makes a comment to which she responds with “seriously?” Yeah. He told her we had sex in so many words and her response was “didn’t I tell you guys not to.” Although I don’t know the guy I actually  “did the deed” with, I’m glad it wasn’t her husband. Although I woke up wondering why the dream started the way it did. I am not attracted to her husband.

Then I started thinking and 4 things came to mind.

1.       Lately I’ve been having a lot of dreams about sex. The other night I had a dream my boss was rubbing my butt. Yes! My boss! Yes!... My butt! I won’t get into any detail on that one, but I’ll just say. There is no attraction there either. The other dreams have been full on sex. With different people. Not strangers... It seems I know them in the dream. I’m in a relationship with them at the time. But it has never been the same person, always someone different.

2.       The 1^st guy in the dream did not look like her husband. I was on the phone with her, in her house, and her husband came in the room. But the guy in the dream did not look like her actual husband. So, who or what does he symbolize?

3.       This is the second time I’ve had a dream about sleeping with a friend’s husband.  The 1^st one was years ago. I don’t remember the details, I just remember waking up feeling guilty.

4.       In the past when I had sex dreams, I could never see the face of the person I was with. For years, I could never see who I was with until recently. (Outside of the 1^st dream about a friend’s husband). About 1.5 years ago I had a dream about this guy I was dating. This was for one thing, the 1^st time I had a sex dream about someone I was with, and two… this was the 1^st time I actually  saw the face of the person I was with. What does that mean?

When I woke up and recalled my dream I hop online. Because… my boss???... a friend’s husband who turns into someone else… What did this dream meaning? What message am I supposed to be receiving? I need to figure this out, because it’s a recurring theme which means I need to change something.

Dream Interpretation

I got online and was glad to see the first sentence “sex dreams are rarely ever about actual sex”. Sex dreams are about union, the coming together of different, conflicting parts of yourself. Okay… interesting.

Then…. I opened one of my dream interpretation books and saw “The dream of having sexual intercourse and enjoying it portends a happy change in your love life.” This good news! But… my boss? A friend’s husband? Hmm… Nah… this one doesn’t apply this time around. I put that book back an opened the next one. “This relates to sexual dreams that usually express hidden desires, or the appearance of sex can relate to problems in this area. It is important to understand the setting or drama surrounding the sexual element. This will give information about what is happening with your sexual feelings and activities. Our sex dreams… show us what growth or new challenge is being met.” Okay… I don’t know what that means. Back to the internet.

“Generally a dream of sex is a symbol of unity between two people, and it symbolizes the desire to express ourselves in love. To dream of sex may also indicate that you need to look after yourself in emotional ways that are not necessarily sexual. You may need to put more effort into taking care of yourself or a relationship. The dream is quite interesting in that it shows you that real spiritual growth is taking place.”

Let’s start with work…

Sex with a co-worker

Your dream is either because you recently connected with that co-worker on some level or there is something about the co-worker you need to incorporate into yourself. Your subconscious may feel there is some quality they possess that you would be beneficial to you if you were to take it on as your own. Think about the fact that you are united at the workplace. Do you need to unite with them for the sake of work?

Sex with your boss

In the case of your boss, it is most likely power, authority, management skills, decision making, etc. that you need to merge into your own life. It’s not about climbing your boss’ ladder. Are you facing a tough decision? Do you need to fire or get rid of a certain element, person or behavior in your life? Do you see leadership abilities developing in yourself, or that you’d like to nurture further? You may need to be more of a boss in various aspects of your life. Look for areas in which there’s room for you to take charge more.

Sex with a faceless stranger

The mystery lover symbolizes some aspect of yourself that you are trying to get to know and utilize in your own life. You may be uncertain about the near future. The faceless man represents a desire for you to be more authoritative and assertive in your daily life.  

Sex with someone else’s boyfriend/girlfriend

Indicates you wish to be in a relationship and to experience the energy of love.

Some bonuses…

That you’re pregnant

Something in your life is “in the works”. Something is in the growing and development phase. Think about projects you’re working on. Do they bring you excitement? Are you currently consumed with something in particular?

With someone of the same sex

Self-Love. Your self-esteem is changing. You are starting to love and accept yourself as you are, or you are incorporating aspects or your dream partner into yourself. You are loving parts of yourself you have not loved in the past. You are starting to love the person you are becoming.

What are you dreaming about?

Books:

12,000 Dreams Interpreted - Miller

Your Dream Interpreter – Tony Crisp

Other Sources:

Auntyflo.com/Cosmopolitan.com/Dreamcloud.com/Thefrisky.com